Bullying is horrible. I know as a child I hated it and the way I coped with bullies as a child was to fight back. People used to underestimate me because I was quiet and they thought I was an easy target. What they did not know was that I was a fighter and had a bad temper once someone pissed me off.
Those who tried to bully me in primary school by hitting or punching me were soon very sorry they tried to pick a fight with me. I fought back. This always surprised the bullies and what surprised them even more was that I was not the weak target that they thought I was. I was actually strong. Surprise, surprise. In the end I fought most of the bullies and won. After that I was left alone. No one would mess with me.
Fast forward to me as an adult. I thought bullying ended in school. Imagine my shock when I entered the world of work and found that bullying still continues except it is not physical but is done in psychological ways to undermine people and hurt their self-esteem.
Bullying at the workplace can be done in a variety of ways. It can be done through vicious gossip about you, lies to hurt your reputation and subtle put downs and criticisms of you as a person.
So what do you do about it? You’re not in school where you can fight back physically. However, the same rule applies; the only thing you can do with a bully is to stand up to them. Do not let them push you around.
If you are being bullied in the workplace and find it challenging to stand up for yourself read Free Yourself From Workplace Bullying. This book helped me by giving me insight into why bullies bully and tactics you can use to stand up to them and still keep your dignity. It you want to know how to fight the bullies in your workplace then Free Yourself From Workplace Bullying is a book I highly recommend you read.