Why do women stay in abusive relationships? This is a question the whole world asks. Society does not understand it when a woman is being beaten back and blue and yet chooses to stay in an abusive relationship. When people see this they blame the victim. They say comments like all she has to do is leave or maybe she likes the abuse that is why she stays.
Who in their right mind would actually like being abused? Imagine being in a relationship where everyday someone calls you ugly and stupid. Imagine that you try to participate in a conversation with your partner and every word you utter is treated as if it is worthless.
Imagine that you want to leave but every time you want to leave your partner threatens to kill you and beats you up every time you tell them you are leaving. Imagine that you tried to leave your partner already and he followed you to your friend’s house and dragged you back home. Imagine that every time you leave he finds you. Now do you understand why women stay in abusive relationships?
Don’t stand by and judge abused women. Educate yourself and try to understand what they are going through. Many women who leave abusive partners are harnessed, stalked and eventually murdered by their abusive partners. You’re dammed if you stay but still dammed when you leave.
This is not to say that any woman who is being abused should stay in an abusive relationship. No one should stay with an abuser. Some women have to travel and live very far away in order to get away from their abusive partners.
Many women stay in abusive relationships because they are terrified that their partners will kill them if they leave because of all the threats their partners make when they tell them they want to leave. Some women develop low self-esteem because of the abuse and have been so broken down by their partners that they lack the spirit and will to leave.
Other women may not have anywhere to go. They may have been isolated by their partners and do not have any friends or family to go to if they were to leave. They may lack information about women’s shelters and refuges. Some women’s partners control their finances and they may not have money and as a result may not leave because they are dependent on their partners financially.
There are many reasons why women choose to stay in abusive relationships. So I say to society don’t judge them. Help them to leave their abusive partners and escape being in abusive relationships.
Why do you think women stay in abusive relationships? Feel free to leave your comments below.